Today I was having a think about how lucky I am and feel. In all my relationships i've ever had, I must admit I was always cautious about my disability. I got to a point where i'd almost hide it, just so that people didn't know and then wouldn't treat me differently. Although eventually they would learn that I did have hearing problems.. but hopefully then was the stage when it didn't have to matter anymore, when I had been accepted, and well.. liked. It's almost like, when I think they'd find out, that they would say 'oh.. okay..' and we'd soon split cos I wasn't what they had expected me to be like. I know that sounds terrible, but honestly, i've had a couple like that.
Though today I was thinking about how safe and happy I am to feel accepted in every possible way. I have a wonderful man that wants to be with me, and loves me no matter what, and I know he loves me. My disability has never put him off, and admittedly I did expect him to do the same as the other people. I know I shouldn't have rated him against the other people, because he's far from being anything like them, but I suppose you begin to expect a certain behaviour towards yourself and don't believe in anything else, but he was different.
Also he looks at me the same and talks the same as when he didn't know. I don't feel scared to have them on show around him or to worry if they whistle or make a strange noise. I feel comfortable to talk about them and other things with him. It's become nothing to worry about. He'll turn them off if i've accidentally left them switched on. He'll repeat things as many times as needed to hear what was said. He'll flip them back over my ear if they've fell off, and he'll hand them back to me once i've taken them out at night, in the morning.
I guess what i'm trying to say is that however worried you are about yourself (in any way), whatever you don't like about yourself, or feel self-conscious about.. there is going to be someone who will accept it and love you the way you are. So that one day, your worry is no worry.. and really, it makes you feel better in your own skin, and massively more confident. I've found that man, who doesn't think twice about them, and main priority is that i'm happy and okay.
To be honest i've found that, any man that will put you down for the things that bother you, aren't worth it.. and most certainly don't deserve you.
So really girls, there's proof, there is some decent guys out there! Start feeling better about yourself :)
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